My reaction this time was to ask who told him this. Who? Where did he get his information from? I was told the T.V.
Insert my explanation on the realities, the processes, the statistics, ... the facts. Some of which were...
"The Ministry of Children and Family Development has hundreds of children in its care who desperately need homes. They are known as BC's Waiting Children. These children are waiting for adoption for one of several reasons:
- They are older than 2
- They are part of a sibling group
- They were exposed to drugs or alcohol prenatally and have behavioural or learning disabilities
- They have suffered abuse or neglect
- They have lived in so many foster homes that they have difficulty attaching to a new family"
I didn't get into why it wasn't right for our family, as I soon realized that I wasn't being heard anyway...
However, after stewing on it... I think next time I will answer differently.
We want to adopt a child who needs a family. Does it really matter where that child comes from? Why should I adopt a child from Canada over anywhere else - are Canadian children more deserving?
Wait a second... let's turn this around again. We are adopting to give a child a family! Isn't that amazing!? The world will have one less child to go to bed without parents to tuck them in at night! We will be adding another child to our family...a sister, a daughter, a granddaughter! On that note... where on earth is there any room for any criticism? It's a positive thing... no room for negativity.
Why do people feel they have to find something to be critical about? Why can't they just be happy and encouraged that you want to do something good? What is that all about?
We ended the conversation with ... "You know this a big thing, it will change your life forever (I'm sure he meant in a negative way)..."
I replied with... "Yes, I know... that's the idea. Wouldn't the world be a different place if everyone did one 'big thing' like this, or at least made an effort to assist others in doing a 'big thing'?"